Steve's good friend Frank is getting his PhD right now in Marriage and Family Life and he shared the importance of exits and entrances in your day-to-day marriage.
Frank's professor explained how whenever he would step through the door, their family dog would go crazy - running around in circles, barking loudly, jumping up and down - that dog was so eager and excited for him to come home! In this professor's marriage they now have a joke about trying to "Beat the Dog," meaning they try to show even more excitement than the dog about each other's arrivals :).
Some days I am watching the clock and so ready for Steve to come home and rescue me! I often want to shove our cute kids into his arms and then fall down right there and crash on the ground. But, we also want our husbands to be excited to come home and WE BOTH need a break!!
Focus for a week on becoming aware of what you do and say when your spouse is coming and going and try to do some special things for these important cross roads. Here are some ideas:
- Give your spouse a hug and kiss as they walk out the door
- Put on some make-up and quickly fix your hair right before they get home
- Have a special treat or even sparkling apple cider for when he comes home one day
- When you meet up with your spouse after a long day, first encourage them to go for a run or do something that they personally enjoy to unwind! I think you'll find that they will also want to later do the same for you.
- Imagine what your spouse's day must have been like and express appreciation for all they did
- Really any marriage ritual done continually, like praying each night together, forms commitment and provides identity to your marriage and relationship. It shows the fruits of you putting EACH OTHER FIRST!
What are some things you do for your exits & entrances? I'd love to add your ideas to the list!