Whew, we are all moved in and it has been hard to keep up on the blog! It has now been 7 months since I started busybliss, and I just have to say what a fun and amazing experience it has been to connect with and learn from all you women! THANK YOU all for your interesting and insightful feedback. For all those who have contacted me, I do think about you and so want to respond to every one - I just have to find the time to do it! The other day I was trying to go through my emails to reply... Hailey was napping and Brayden was on the couch watching a movie, so I thought I'd have a moment to catch up! After a few responses I looked over at my cute little boy, left the computer, and decided to massage his back with lotion and giggle with him. So thanks for your patience as I try to balance this blog and you wonderful women who are so important to me AND taking care of my family which is the MOST IMPORTANT thing. I thought I'd start doing Q & As and open it up for all your wives and mothers to comment! If you have any questions, you can either comment or click on the "Contact Me" tab.
Q: "Hi! I found your blog on pinterest and I've been reading it for the past few hours! Your words are so encouraging! I was just wondering if you have any advice for a working mom? I have a 20 month old precious girl and I was blessed to be able to stay home with her for the first year but had to go back to work last November. I struggle with it every day that I have to drop her off at the babysitter's. I don't have many friends who are mom's and the ones that I have are stay at home moms. It's just so hard to handle all the guilt that I have leaving her everyday but yet knowing that I have to work. My husband is very supportive but I don't know that he understands the reality of what it's like for a mother leaving her child everyday, because men are made differently, and although he listens to me and tries to understand it would be nice to hear from a woman."
A: You are not alone! So many women are faced with similar situations where they have to work (or enjoy their job) but also want to be there for their children! Right now I'm working part time to help out financially - luckily my hours are somewhat flexible, but it can be so hard to be pulled away from our children during the day and/or our husband at night. I think it's natural for us women to take responsibility and ownership over our kids - even when we have husbands who are really involved and supportive as dads. Guilt is such a universal feeling mothers can have and we just never have enough time and just can't do it all.
That's so awesome that you were able to be home the first year!! I've thought about you lots and here are just a few thoughts... I think being selective in choosing a babysitter or daycare that you feel will be a positive influence and environment would be encouraging. And since you do have time away, I'm sure you value the time you do have with your children so much more. Even though you're likely exhausted and have lots to do after a long day's work, I bet you're doing what you can making the most of that precious time with her! And I think simplifying and saying no to whatever else you can so you have more time to be there after work. It also helps to find ways to give one-on-one time and attention... like maybe you could have a "girl's night" or a "date night" with her or have a special bedtime routine. You can have a great relationship with your little girl and work at the same time - I wish you the very best and hope someday you'll be able to stay home if that's what you want!