Wednesday, March 14, 2012
To those who get your VERY BEST and your VERY WORST
Marriage, unlike other casual relationships, tests us to our very core and requires Christ-like attributes like forgiveness, love, understanding, patience. When you are in a moment of frustration, remember... nothing you say will be helpful or effective unless the other person can feel LOVE behind what you say. People react not nearly as much to the exact words you say but the intention and FEELING BEHIND THOSE WORDS. When I am being short or irritable, I so appreciate the times when Steve CHOOSES to respond in a different way. It's the easy and natural thing to be offended when someone is offensive. To be rude and short with people who treat us in a similar way. BUT, what if in that moment, we were stable as a person and saw the "offender" as someone who NEEDS MORE LOVE and understanding. It's the HARDEST thing for us humans to do - to respond with love and compassion and understanding when we don't think they deserve it, but I believe that this is a more beautiful way to live. Thank you Steve for putting up with me and loving me even when I'm not at my very best. :) I love you and Brayden and Hailey more than air! Thanks to you three for being patient with me as Mommy learns!